Does every couple fight about money?!
I know we do. And it's ridiculous. I don't care who you are or how much money you have, one of you is likely gonna be a saver & one of you is likely gonna be a spender. What's really tough is if you're both spenders. And if you're both savers then you're probably not reading this blog because you're not my friend. Except for you there in Colorado. You're my friend but you're an anomaly :)
Anyway, I'm the spender. Thankfully I have a really good job so I can back my game up but my spending habits still keep my husband awake at night.
Seriously. It's ridiculous because we are doing fine. But I could reign in my spending. I should.
But he had to have the talk with me yesterday morning the day before his birthday so now he is on my last fucking nerve still today & it is his birthday. So unfortunate.
Perhaps I should consider it his birthday gift that I let him sit me down & have the money talk with me. I get it once a year or so. Mostly before we do my books. I'm self-employed & I usually owe taxes. This year I might not but I won't get much back & I'll still owe large quarterlies.
I've had a few slow months which hasn't helped & we did a helluva lot of traveling last year. And then Christmas & our Maui trip & our new washer & dryer (the old ones broke) all came due at the exact same time that my commission checks took a dive so it all came crashing down on me yesterday. I guess it's been ponging around in his head since January.
Men are so odd. I can't stew that long. I have to explode & then it's over.
But now I'm annoyed with him. Because yesterday he told me that it's been bothering him for a few weeks. I hate when things slip past me. If something's bugging him or on his mind I want to know about it. If something's bothering me for a few weeks you can sure as shit bet that I'm gonna tell him about it.
It makes me not trust my read on him. It's like, what else have I been missing? In a bitchy way, yes, I'm pissed that it got past me that something was bothering him. But also in a concerned way because if something was bothering him I should have noticed & tried to find out what it was & how I could help. Am I so self-absorbed that I don't recognize a problem with this man that I love? Although I do kinda hate him at this moment :)
Poor guy, literally & figuratively. He just can't win.
I'm back to blogging people ~ I've missed you!
Missed your blogs as well!!! Sorry that you came back to us under such sorry circumstances, but I like that you came back, nonetheless... Yes, everyone fights about money!!! I think that if money was never an object, 99.9 percent of people would live 'Happily Ever After'! At LEAST you make your own money and contribute, when you don't, you don't have a 'dog in the fight', that is truly the worst!!!
ReplyDeleteyou are too funny! I love too spend too, but am a total money nerd too so that's why I guess I am a saver. when you have little money to spend, you have to be disciplined, beat every dollar into submission, and that is where we are. otherwise I would have to go back to work! the other thing that you brought up is communication. we talk about money all the time, probably everyday. we both see what we spend, create a budget and when we spend money we see how much money we have (or don't have) and I think that helps a lot. I know, we are weird, but it works. love you lady!
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