Hang In, Hang On, or Get the Eff Out?

Ok, so I try not to be sexist. I try not to be racist. I try not to be ageist. I'm a bit of a classist but I don't really try not to be that. Wherever you're from, whatever you are, be classy. Be polite. Be tolerant.

Anyway, the above photo was posted on Perez & I happened to see J Lo's performance on New Year's Eve on ABC & I just thought I was super buzzed because she could not have been wearing that naked suit. With the darker area between her legs so that was the eye catcher.

Now Dick Clark was on there, too, & his choice to still perform makes some people uncomfortable. I watched him & listened to him & understood him & was not uncomfortable. He seems to still be enjoying what he's doing, wants to do it for as long as he's able & his limited screen time is an indication to me that he realizes his limitations.

But what the fuck was Jennifer Lopez thinking?

She's 40 & she's rockin, I'll be the first to admit. At this point I don't think it's all natural but that is the way of our world. But that outfit was disturbing. It was almost embarrassing for me to watch it with my husband because I didn't want to encourage him to make any disparaging remarks about a 40 year old curvy woman. I hope to be 25% as hot as she is when I'm 40 but I just did not understand.

And then there's Madonna on Saturday Night Live rolling around with Lady Ga Ga a few months ago in a corset. They both looked good although the outfits were odd on both the 22 & 50 year olds.

And is it appropriate for a 50 year old to wear a matching pin-up get-up with a 22 year old? Even if she looked good, for me it was uncomfortable because she was clearly not acting her age. I tend to try to respect my elders.

I have other issues with Madonna, anyway. She's very political & is surprised when people react negatively to her politics. I don't think celebrity gives people any insight at all into politics. In fact, it pretty much removes you from the real world & real struggles people face.

So my other issues may cloud my opinion of Madonna's behavior. And she did look good. But was it appropriate?

It's a public thing to me. If a celebrity is snapped in a bikini on the beach in Hawaii & it ain't lookin' right, well fuck the person that took that photo & sold it.

I was in Mexico this summer & spent time with a German woman there celebrating her 50th anniversary with her husband. She looked gorgeous in clothes. No visible cosmetic surgery to her face but she was still a blond though almost 70. She wore a different bikini every day & she walked to the bar, sat at the bar & strolled all over the resort. She was awesome. It wasn't about how she looked in it. It was just who she was & how she felt about herself. I doubt she would have gotten up on a stage & worked it out but she was comfortable in her skin & I loved that. I admired it.

The men aren't subjected to the same costume choices as women.

As men age, yes we're surprised by the flab & hair & stuff we see on them when a picture is published of them on a beach vacation. But again, fuck the photographer & the publisher & even us for looking at the photos & judging them.

But we women. We have to wear sleeveless, strapless, backless & less & go out in public on display.

No wonder we do the things we do to ourselves. I don't know who to blame. Is it the pressure from men or from women?

I'm fine with myself. Although I have much to improve & much to be annoyed with myself about. But it's on me.

And the next time I go to Mexico I'll feel fine in my board shorts & tankini top. Perhaps I'll even manage to try a bikini top with my shorts just to lay out on my patio. In honor of my friend from Germany.

But I ain't strolling to the damn bar!

Have a good night...